Can Boys and Girls really just be friends? The girl’s answer: yes. The boy’s answer: no.

I am not really sure where the discrepancy comes from, but for decades there has been debate whether you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex without having intimate feelings for them.

However, I find it fascinating that most guys will tell you boys and girls cannot be friends. When you ask girls this same question – they will undoubtedly tell you the opposite.

It was recently explained to me that guys have trouble being friends with single, attractive girls. If the guy is not attracted to the girl, or the girl is not single, it is much easier to be “just friends” with them.

Does that make sense? From the guy’s perspective, there will always be some sort of attraction between the sexes.

Girls however, seem to want guys as friends. I cannot count the number of times I have heard a friend say, “No, I couldn’t go on a date with him…that would ruin our friendship.” The funny part is – this is exactly what the guy wants.

Many guys don’t want the girls as friends, because what’s the fun in that? I totally understand this feeling. Some girls just think differently. They want someone just to talk to, and nothing else.

So there’s this butting-head stream of consciousness in the difference between how guys and girls think. So the ultimate question, how do you stay just stay friends with someone of the opposite sex without letting the natural progression of boys and girls get in the way?

It all comes down to a little self-control. If you tell yourself from the start, “you will stay friends with said person of the opposite sex,” it is completely possible to prove Harry and Sally wrong.

Put a little metaphorical shock collar in your mind and when you start to notice that this friend is not acting like a friend – stop yourself. It is possible.

It just comes down to a little self-control.

Column: BECKY BUSH, Intern News Reporter

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